Notes From 'How To Get What You Want'

How to Get What You Want by Jason Shen

I just finished reading @jasonshen’s new book “How To Get What You Want” which, while short, I really enjoyed it. I’ve pulled a couple of my favorite quotes below.

It seems so obvious but we often lose sight of what we really want, and get caught up in a routine, doing things we don’t like and which serve no greater goal.

This hasn’t been the case for me in the last few years, but there have been a few times where I was very close to falling into this trap. Routine is comforting, and pushing too far outside of it is scary. In October of last year, for example, I took my first trip to Europe. Going in, I expected nothing but fun and excitement, but about halfway through the trip, the reality of being in a place I’d never been too before, so far from home, in way less comfortable settings than I’m used to. Once I got over my initial sense of ‘what the hell am I doing here’ the new experience and perspective was worth it.

A silly example to be sure, but it really highlighted how easy it is for me to fall into a routine and get too comfortable.

Sometimes, despite your best efforts, you don’t get what you want. And that can suck, no question.

This line especially stood out for me. I’m a perfectionist, and can be a bit of tyrant when I don’t feel like things are turning out the way I expected them to. Because of that, it’s some times hard for me to delegate as much as I should. My default thinking is “if I do everything myself, then success and failure are completely up to me.” In reality though, sometimes things just don’t work out for whatever reason.

Focus on creating smaller wins. Start building momentum.

I’m all about creating momentum. So much so that I get preachy about it - just ask anyone I’ve worked with recently. Taking small steps forward every day never feels that fulfilling in the moment, but when I look back, it’s worth it. It also lowers the overall likely hood that things will go catastrophically wrong. Lean vs. waterfall and all that.

The appearance of super-human-ness that comes from being consistent is also a nice plus.

Overall, it’s worth the time to check out.